Vent

I hesitate to post this as I am not sure if any family members read this. But then, they don't control my life, I am not posting anything evil or negative about them, and then again... its MY blog. A place where I can document our family, my thoughts and feelings whether happy or sad. This post is a vent, so to any who don't want to read a vent, stop reading here...

We have a great person in our life, that is truly important to us. We love them with all of our hearts and know that Avery will grow to love this person as well. The problem arises in how this person acts: Which is very selfish, rude, and they do not guard their tongue. Feelings are continually hurt, boundiers crossed and fights and they do not bring out the best in my husband and I . Of course I want to guard Avery from actions that are bad behavior. But I WILL not keep Avery from this person as they hold a key relationship with our family. When we speak to this individual, it in turn creates another problem. So we have kept our mouths shut for so long. But as a mother I can not just let bad behavior be in front of my child. Even though he can not understand now, in a few months he will. And I am tired of hearing from other family individuals and this person that its "just the way they are" That is a bunch of Bologna! It is not hard to think before you speak. And its time for this person to let go and not be so selfish. Sharing is a great thing, especially people. (sharing Avery for example) AND the words please and thank you are magic words that make everything seem better and not demanding. It is getting hard to bite our tongues and I will not keep doing it. I need people in Avery's life that are positive and a good example as how someone grow up to become. If I have to limit the relationship, I will in protection of my son. But this person seriously needs to put on their big adult underwear, and realize that its not about them, let go and grow up. I know their mother has taught them all of the rules of society, and magic words of please and thank you. And my favorite saying is "YOUR NEVER TO OLD TO CHANGE!" Just put your mind to it. You won't be perfect at first, but the effort does go along way. I will no longer accept that "its just the way I am "excuse anymore.
Vent over...for now....

Nathaniel's words of wisdom...

Nathaniel is my sweet adorable 5 year old wise nephew! He is about to start kindergarten this August and had some wise help for me the other day.... Along with being the most adorable 5 year old helper, who loves to make Avery laugh and give him his bottle and to make presents for us, he decided to help me out yesterday. While pretending to vacuum, he started on my knee. When asked what he was doing, he said :"I'm vacuuming all your hair off your legs..." And that my friend is when you know you need to shave your legs! No excuses, even if your a tired mother of a newborn.. people will notice... especially your 5 year old nephew!

~Beach Bum~

Summer is almost over and I needed to get our sweet boy to the beach! The beach is one of my favorite places. I grew up on Long Island and we spend almost everyday at the beach. My mom grew up sailing and being a beach bum and she wanted the same for us. The beach is a place of prayer and healing for me as well as the years have gone by and I wanted to introduce our boy to the pleasures of the beach. So with granma, Mimi and daddy, Uncle Tom, Aunt Dana and cousin Tammie in tow, we finally made it to the beach. I was a little apprehensive since he is so young. But he LOVED it. I think he must take after my mom! He felt entirely at home in the sand and loved the waves touching his feet! After the beach we headed to the Trumbles hotel to swim in the pool, which I was completely nervous about. Avery wasn't so sure about the water, I don't think he really liked his feet dangling about but we splashed and played for a short time. I wanted him to kick alot since that is all he likes to do in the bath tub, but he didn't. Although he was all kicks once we put him in the bath at home to rinse off, go figure!