Vent

I hesitate to post this as I am not sure if any family members read this. But then, they don't control my life, I am not posting anything evil or negative about them, and then again... its MY blog. A place where I can document our family, my thoughts and feelings whether happy or sad. This post is a vent, so to any who don't want to read a vent, stop reading here...

We have a great person in our life, that is truly important to us. We love them with all of our hearts and know that Avery will grow to love this person as well. The problem arises in how this person acts: Which is very selfish, rude, and they do not guard their tongue. Feelings are continually hurt, boundiers crossed and fights and they do not bring out the best in my husband and I . Of course I want to guard Avery from actions that are bad behavior. But I WILL not keep Avery from this person as they hold a key relationship with our family. When we speak to this individual, it in turn creates another problem. So we have kept our mouths shut for so long. But as a mother I can not just let bad behavior be in front of my child. Even though he can not understand now, in a few months he will. And I am tired of hearing from other family individuals and this person that its "just the way they are" That is a bunch of Bologna! It is not hard to think before you speak. And its time for this person to let go and not be so selfish. Sharing is a great thing, especially people. (sharing Avery for example) AND the words please and thank you are magic words that make everything seem better and not demanding. It is getting hard to bite our tongues and I will not keep doing it. I need people in Avery's life that are positive and a good example as how someone grow up to become. If I have to limit the relationship, I will in protection of my son. But this person seriously needs to put on their big adult underwear, and realize that its not about them, let go and grow up. I know their mother has taught them all of the rules of society, and magic words of please and thank you. And my favorite saying is "YOUR NEVER TO OLD TO CHANGE!" Just put your mind to it. You won't be perfect at first, but the effort does go along way. I will no longer accept that "its just the way I am "excuse anymore.
Vent over...for now....

Nathaniel's words of wisdom...

Nathaniel is my sweet adorable 5 year old wise nephew! He is about to start kindergarten this August and had some wise help for me the other day.... Along with being the most adorable 5 year old helper, who loves to make Avery laugh and give him his bottle and to make presents for us, he decided to help me out yesterday. While pretending to vacuum, he started on my knee. When asked what he was doing, he said :"I'm vacuuming all your hair off your legs..." And that my friend is when you know you need to shave your legs! No excuses, even if your a tired mother of a newborn.. people will notice... especially your 5 year old nephew!

~Beach Bum~

Summer is almost over and I needed to get our sweet boy to the beach! The beach is one of my favorite places. I grew up on Long Island and we spend almost everyday at the beach. My mom grew up sailing and being a beach bum and she wanted the same for us. The beach is a place of prayer and healing for me as well as the years have gone by and I wanted to introduce our boy to the pleasures of the beach. So with granma, Mimi and daddy, Uncle Tom, Aunt Dana and cousin Tammie in tow, we finally made it to the beach. I was a little apprehensive since he is so young. But he LOVED it. I think he must take after my mom! He felt entirely at home in the sand and loved the waves touching his feet! After the beach we headed to the Trumbles hotel to swim in the pool, which I was completely nervous about. Avery wasn't so sure about the water, I don't think he really liked his feet dangling about but we splashed and played for a short time. I wanted him to kick alot since that is all he likes to do in the bath tub, but he didn't. Although he was all kicks once we put him in the bath at home to rinse off, go figure!

Dedication

Last weekend, we dedicated Avery to the Lord. It was an amazing experience. Since we had the serivce on saturday night, we held a party here to celebrate Avery's special day with our close family and friend. Here are some pictures:

Avery in his dedication outfit. The sweater was knitted by his great grandmom Moylan

Getting prayed over

Mimi and Gramma made the trip from MD!

With his Nana and Grandpop

Our family

Pictures of Avery's first 4th of July

We met my sister Michelle, her husband Jake and kids at the park for some yummy chicken and fireworks...here are some moments of our night!


Avery with his cousin Nathaniel, who is holding his cousin's Brayden's pinwheel....

Family Photo

Trying to reach the fireworks

Pretty fireworks

Just chillin out on the blanket

My fav photo of the day!

The day was amazing! He was an angel all day long. But we wore him out. We finally got home around 11 and he went straight to bed, only to be woken up by the neighborhood kids lovely fireworks show that went on for and hour or more. So Avery is currently sleeping again! He slept through the night, got up around 5:30am, ate and went back to sleep until 9:30 then went down for a nap around 10:30 and he hasn't moved! Poor kid! We wore him out with our first fourth of July!

Avery is 3months!

Our Avery Bear is 3 months! I can't believe it. The time has flown by! And, for the first time, Avery has slept through the night. (actually two nights in a row) It has been amazing to get 6 hours of sleep uninterrupted. I have handled the sleep deprivation really well over the past three months. Probably because for years I barely got any with going to school and work full time! At this point Avery can:

• Play under his playmat and grasp and pull the dangling toys
• He has found interest in his hands
• Can lay on his belly and hold his head up for a while
• Smiles non stop
• Talks non stop
• Still loves to cuddle!
• Loves singing and dancing together
• Will sit through us reading him a book... he seems to focus on the pictures...

His three month picture next to the bunny ( i take it every month to track the growth)

His three month picture.

At the same token, 3 months also marks a huge change. Its time for me to go back to work. I love my job. But I LOVE spending time with Avery. I have gone back to work twice a week in June, but now, I am going to be away five days a week! Eight hours at a time. I just hope we adjust well. Avery is really comfortable with Brant and other of our family members down here. But I know it is going to be a new adjustment. Even though I am nervous and honestly not happy with the timing of Brant's real estate appraising class, I am hoping that for this short season of life, I will only have to be a working mom, and in two to three years, he will be established to where I only have to work part time if any. Not only am I going back to work, but for July and August, Brant is leaving us for five weekends (thankfully not all in a a row) to go up to Columbia (2 hours away) to take his classes. After August he will hopefully get an internship and will have to take 4 more classes. After the classes, two years and 2000 hours he will be a certified real estate appraiser. I just hope that the two years (it will probably have to be more actually since he has to still work full time) goes by fast and as less stress as possible. I just pray that we all fair well in this transitional time.

Daddy has a secret..

Daddy loves to talk with Avery. Avery is so talkative lately. And Avery tries to mimic what Daddy is saying. I caught a couple of the moments on camera at the park this week!

Talking to each other!

Avery has a secret to share....

And Daddy does too!